#124: This is an IshYOU, Not an IshME (aka: When an issue has nothing to do with you)

Ok. So there's a problem.

Maybe someone's saying it's your fault. Or they're implying it. Or you're just assuming it.

What do you do? Well, if you're like a lot of folks, you go into Auto-Wrong Mode.

  • You question your right to have an opinion contrary to others...to implement a boundary...to say no to a request
  • You assume you're wrong, you've created the problem, and now it's your job to fix it
  • You lose sight of what you TRULY think, feel, want and need

NOT ANYMORE, friend.

I used to ask clients to consider another perspective ("What if this problem has 100% to do with them, and 0% to do with you?") but now - thanks to a brave, wise, empowered young woman - I have this gem of a question:

What if this is an ish-YOU, not an ish-ME?

Listen for how to free yourself from assuming you're in the wrong, and from taking responsibility for being "different" just so there isn't a problem anymore!

 

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