#140: How to Not Get Stuck Thinking "If only..." (aka The RAUL Episode) *Revisit*

Are you stuck in regret? Ruminating on past decisions? Overthinking choices you could have (or "should have") made differently, and imagining how life would be different right now?

Whether you're mad about something TODAY because of last week or you're contemplating your entire LIFE, this episode will help you.

In all 140 episodes, #29 has received the most feedback - so let's bring it back to the top of the list! This is a revisit of #29: The Cure for "If only" agony.

Essentially, we're talking about why we get stuck in thinking about the "Coulda Woulda Shoulda."

  • Where we could today be if we'd only done X yesterday
  • How we wouldn't feel this year if we only hadn't done Y ten years ago
  • What life should look like because things shoulda gone differently

It's a kind of singularly crappy pain to wholeheartedly believe things would be better...you would be happier or more successful...IF ONLY you'd decided X instead of Y.

But this thinking is a trap — and you need to know how to get out of it.

 

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